Trevor B. Katende ’03, topless in Seventeen magazine
FM: Did you volunteer to take off your shirt or did they ask you?
TK: The editor of the article asked me to take off my shirt. I thought about it for a while and decided, “What the hell, I might as well.”
FM: What do your friends think of your appearance in Seventeen?
TK: They love it. They think it’s hysterical. They all have copies of it. It’s really funny.
FM: Let’s talk about kissing and telling: you said in response to the question, “Do guys kiss and tell?” that, “For the sake of honesty...yeah! I try not to if it’s a girl I really care about, but I do tell my closest friends. Girls talk about stuff just as bad as guys, though.” So how much detail do you provide your pals?
TK: Nothing too personal. A very general, brief overview, nothing too specific. You know the old baseball analogy—that always works.
FM: What do you think girls would say to their friends after hooking up with you?
TK: Oh goodness. I could say what they’d hopefully say—hopefully they’d say I was a good kisser and that I was very respectful.
FM: In the magazine, you said you’d stay away from girls your friends have hooked up with. Have you ever broken that rule?
TK: Yes, but after a three-month layover. Sometimes you’re in a situation when you realize you’re going to hook up with someone your friend already hooked up with. If they didn’t have feelings about the girl, then it would be okay. And three months is usually enough to dissolve all feelings.
FM: I’m going to ask you the questions Seventeen asked the other guys in the article. How far, how fast?
TK: In college, anything goes. I think most guys don’t mind having sex on the first date, or the first time hooking up. Although that’s not my style.
FM: What if a girl has a bad reputation?
TK: Like as a ho? If a girl’s a ho, I’d have to be pretty trashed to hook up with her. Diseases and all that stuff. You don’t want to get yourself involved in that.
FM: What should a girl say about her past?
TK: Some things guys say are “always cut how many people you slept with in half.” Or add that “you only did it with boyfriends.” It’s very key to let the other person know you’ve only done intimate things with people in relationships. It’s not good to know that someone gives oral sex to anyone that comes to the door.
FM: Here’s another one from the mag: how should a girl know you like her?
TK: A girl would know that I like her if I ask her out. I’m pretty straight-forward. I’m really not one for games. If I like you, you’ll know.
FM: Are you single or attached right now?
TK: No comment.
FM: Ideal partner?
TK: Smart, confident, wordly, a girl that likes to party but comes home early, and gorgeous.
FM: Here’s a question from Seventeen’s cover: Does sex hurt the first time?
TK: Not for me!